I have always told my children that they should never give in to peer pressure.
“Don’t be a sheep, think for yourselves, do what you know is right for you,” I say, the platitudes tumbling from my lips.
“Never be drawn into doing something you don’t want to just to appear cool or because other people ask you to.”
You know how it goes…
So, it was with great delight that my daughter, Beth, recently had occasion to recite it all back to me.
If you read my previous post, you will be aware that my family are now following a FODMAP diet (Fermentable, Oligo-, Di-, Mono-saccharides And Polyols – it never gets any easier to explain!), so alcohol is broadly off limits although I do still enjoy the occasional(!) glass of red wine.
This makes social evenings a bit of a challenge, particularly, as some of my friends really like a drink (you know who you are!). Faced with the possibility of a girls’ night out recently, I pondered my options; don’t go, go and deal with the consequences or maybe limit myself to one or two (glasses, not bottles).
“Go out, have a good night… but stay off the booze,” says Beth.
“But… the girls… they won’t… I can’t…”
“You can! It’s simple, no wine.”
“They’re my friends…”
“The they will understand. It’s one night.”
It was hard.
“Come on, one drink won’t hurt… are you sick?… lemonade and what? Ice, no vodka!”
I survived. In fact, it was rather funny being the only one sober (but that’s a whole other story).
I woke up the next day without a headache, no hangover, no bloating, no sick feeling, no upset stomach…
“I’m proud of you mum,” said Beth, as if she were suddenly the parent.
But, here’s the thing; I am well aware that I can say ‘no’. However, when it comes to having a few drinks with my friends, I’m not sure that I always want to. I am capable of making my own choices.
Hopefully, as they get older, so are my children.
Maybe, the time has come to stop lecturing them about what they should and shouldn’t do and trust them more to make their own informed decisions. After all, my husband and I have brought them up to make their choices wisely.
Now where did I put that corkscrew?